Category Archives: Narcissistic Abuse

Meditation and Spending Time With Yourself #selflove

This is a series about authenticity, validation, self-belief and personal power.

How we self-avoid

I’ve always been happy to spend time by myself and would keep myself occupied, busily working on my many projects or tasks. In fact, I would drive myself to achieve my goals, making sure that every second of the day was accounted for. That made me feel as if I was being productive and useful.

I thought that was “spending time with myself.” But now I realise that this constant activity was actually a form of self-avoidance. Continue reading

Your Own Opinions And Feelings #selfaware

This is a series about authenticity, validation, self-belief and personal power.

I’ve already mentioned self-validation, but I wanted to talk more about respecting our own opinions and feelings.

I realise now that for my most of my life I have been extremely reactionary. If someone said or did anything that concerned me in any way, I would immediately react and try to fix things up or do something about it. If I thought someone had a poor opinion of me for any reason, I would react and try to plead my case. Continue reading

Control Yourself – And Not The Rest Of The World #happiness

This is a series about authenticity, validation, self-belief and personal power.

I was the worst control freak, always planning and organising everything I did so that every possible eventuality was taken into account. I would then worry and be anxious that it would all go according to my plan. My happiness depended on the outcome, or what people would think of me, or whether others were fulfilling their end of the bargain. Continue reading

Having Boundaries – for healthy relationships #standards

This is a series about authenticity, validation, self-belief and personal power.

Previously, I talked about deciding on your values. Always following and living according to those values means that you are living your truth.

Standards and boundaries

A part of living your truth is having clear standards, based on your values, for how you live your life and what you are willing to accept from others. Maintaining those standards means that you can live your truth in every single aspect of your life. Continue reading

Don’t Give Your Power Away #healing

This is a series about authenticity, validation, self-belief and personal power.

Have you heard the expression, “don’t give your power away,” and found it hard to find out exactly what that meant? When I finally worked it out, it was nothing short of a revelation to me. Continue reading

Become Your Own Best Friend #selflove

This is a series about authenticity, validation, self-belief and personal power.

Some people may like to think that they don’t talk to themselves, but the truth is that we constantly communicate to ourselves using our own inner voice. How do you speak to yourself? Continue reading